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Posted on 04/10/2015 at 5:09am

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Great Is Thy Faithfulness –The story my dad told me about the pelican

Produced by GrandPa’s Dreams Productions
April 04, 2015

Dedication
To my dad, Pastor William L. Brent,Th.D I will be forever grateful to have been blessed with him, the most wonderful and amazing parent I could have ever hoped or asked for. And a special dedication and thanks to the unsung caregivers throughout the world.

Narrated by Carolyn A. Brent, MBA, CEO of CareGiverStory Inc., 501(c3)

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The story my dad told me about the pelican

My dad and I were very close. As a single parent, he raised me from the time I was twelve until I was nineteen, the age at which I left home. That year I moved from Denver to Los Angeles to explore the world. Dad remarried and we remained close. Over the years, I’d look forward to his visits to Los Angeles each March to celebrate his birthday and catch up. Because Dad was a church pastor, he used our special time together to share the word of God with me.

There was one birthday visit I’ll never forget. I decided to take Dad to Redondo Beach on a Wednesday afternoon. Hardly any people were around, and it was a beautiful day. The ocean was misty, and the moon had risen and was hanging above us in the sky. Dad and I walked along the beach for a while, until we found a comfortable spot to sit in the sand. Then, as we sat gazing at the water and listening to the calls of the seagulls and pelicans that were gracefully flying by, he began to talk to me about God’s love for humanity. Pointing to one pelican slowly soaring high in the sky, silhouetted against the moon, Dad said, “Carolyn, do you see that pelican? Imagine if that beautiful bird had only one responsibility in life. What if it had to fly to the moon and drop off a single grain of sand that it was carrying in its pouch, and then it had to repeat this task until all the sand was removed from the face of the earth?” Looking directly at me, he asked, “How long do you think it
would take?”

“It would take forever,” I answered.

“The love of God and my love for you are eternal,” he said. “Even after I’ve gone to glory, for as long as it would take a pelican to remove the sand from the earth a grain at a time, that’s how long my love will be with you.” That was the first time I can recall Dad speaking with me about the prospect of his death. Of course, I didn’t really want to discuss it, and, in fact, I think I changed the subject. Being in my twenties then, death seemed far off . On some level, I felt that Dad would live forever and nothing bad could ever happen to him. But I also made a vow to God on that day that I’d always be there to take care of Dad if he needed me. Later on, I did my best to honor this promise.

My dad was my best friend, my hero and my adviser, and I hoped and prayed he’d be with me forever. The good times I had with him continued for the next thirty-three years, and there were many opportunities for us to discuss his end-of-life wishes.

We did the best we could to prepare. But when I became his caregiver, I discovered that knowing someone’s wishes is not enough. Even doing the necessary paperwork to ensure that end-of-life wishes will be fulfilled does not always protect an elderly parent or a loved one, particularly if other family members disagree with the arrangements that have been made. Even if you try to do the right things and do your best to prepare for every possible scenario that might arise, like the chronic illness of a parent and the costs associated with it, you can never be too prepared.

 

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Posted on 04/05/2015 at 11:39pm

by GrandPa’s Dreams Productions

Narrated by Carolyn A. Brent,MBA
Gospel & Religious: Great Is Thy Faithfulness (Performance Track) Talleys 4:12

Yes, today is Easter Sunday, the most POWERFUL and RECOGNIZED Holiday of them all.

If you truly want to witness a Miracle, and be blessed–take a few minutes (6) of your time to see for yourself. Yes, I did say, “See for yourself–while listening to this video.”

Just simply watch the ocean in this video to see truly a miracle. That day, it was only GOD me and on the beach.

I used my IPhone, never moving from the spot of where I was standing. And God gave me a special gift to share with you today. Photo was taken in 1975.  Click to review video in it’s entirety.

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Carolyn A. Brent, MBA, CEO of CareGiverStory,
author of two (2) Amazon Bestselling Books – The Caregiver’s Companion: Caring for Your Loved One Medically, Financially and Why Wait? the Baby Boomers’ Guide to Preparing Emotionally, Financially and Legally for a Parent’s Death


 

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Posted on 03/26/2015 at 6:30pm

Crucial Conversations with Parents

Frank Samson, CEO of Senior Care Authority™ interviews Carolyn Brent, nationally acclaimed author, speaker and caregiver advocate, and she lectures throughout the country about the importance of adult siblings and their parents having what she calls “crucial conversations” in preparation for the end-of-life issues they may face.

Senior Care Authority™ is a free residential care placement service providing hands-on assistance to families seeking the best places for seniors to live and receive the care andsupervision they need. throughout the selection process.

Making the right care decision for your loved one can be a daunting task filled with stress, tension and pressure. There are many assisted living and care options to choose from and the terminology is often unfamiliar but Senior Care Authority™ will make the process smoother and easier to help you make an informed decision. Our team has spent countless hours inspecting locations, including mid-larger size communities as well as smaller, residential care homes, meeting the staff and reviewing state reports to advise you of any citations that may have been issued against a particular location. Our Senior Care Advisors will meet personally with you to discuss various options and will accompany you on visits to locations to ensure all your questions are answered. We provide options to only the best and the hallmark of our service commitment is that we are by your side every step of the way. We would be happy to put you in contact with an advisor in your area who will provide you with expert advice on any of the assisted living locations listed in the directory. — Frank Samson, CEO of Senior Care Authority™

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Posted on 03/26/2015 at 6:02pm

 

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Tonight, Micheal Pope, CEO of Alzheimer’s Services of the East Bay (ASEB), and Talk Show Host, will be interviewing Carolyn A. Brent, MBA regarding The Caregiver’s Companion: Caring for Your Loved One Medically, Financially.

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Yes—We all are caregiver’s to both young and old

IMG_1052Even if one person is the primary caregiver, caregiving is accomplished more effectively when it is a team effort. Caregiving consumes time, energy and financial resources. Relatives of a primary caregiver can make the caregiver’s life easier by providing emotional support, financial support and the support of being present so the caregiver can take some time off. The everyday care of your loved one should not be left entirely to the primary caregiver simply because this person lives closest or has volunteered. In some cases, relatives or others may live in another state or country, at a distance that makes it difficult for them to contribute care. If you’re far away, you might make a point of visiting for a week every year so the primary caregiver can take a vacation from the duties of caregiving.

In general, family caregivers are not paid to do the work. However, they often change their work schedule or even quit their job so they can be present for the ailing family member, and this can put a strain on their finances. In my own case, I eventually changed jobs, assuming the post of a sales rep in the local area and taking a sizable cut in my salary, so I could continue working and take care of my dad.

Keep in mind that the person most prone to burnout in a caregiving arrangement is the primary caregiver, which is why a caregiver deserves to be rewarded with your support in any form you can give it, including financially.

In short, it is in the best interest of a family to unite to help the caregiver and the chronically ill or dying loved one. How different family members step in at such a time to offer assistance depends on the relationship dynamics of the family. Ultimately, your role in your loved one’s care depends on many factors, not the least of which is your willingness to be involved, and your loved one’s competence in making decisions and his or her desire for your participation.


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The Caregiver’s Companion

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Posted on 02/12/2015 at 4:12pm

 

5.0 out of 5 stars It’s so easy to let yourself go when your parent’s life is…
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“DIVA INTERRUPTED, OH GOD NOW WHAT? How am I supposed to change my mother’s diapers with these nails?” Is what I had to wrap my brain around as my mother “poo pooed” in her diaper in the middle of me changing her my first time!!! I started crying and chanted, “I can’t do this!” over and over. My 3 children ran into my room and at that moment changing my mother turned into a “CAREGIVING FAMILY AFFAIR”. Carolyn A. Brent’s “The Caregivers Companion” is our new bible. “Taking Care of Yourself When You Are The Caregiver” chapter resonated the loudest with my “Diva” inner self. It’s so easy to let yourself go when your parent’s life is basically in your hands. On behalf of my family, THANK YOU Carolyn for sharing your story and providing invaluable information and resources to help guide us through this process. Congratulations and much success with your book(s). Read review–Amazon 

5.0 out of 5 starsAn Amazing Resource; The Caregiver’s Companion
By Sandi Jackson

First and foremost Congratulations to the author Carolyn Brent. Thank you for this valuable resource. The topics discussed are critical and relevant to me and so many of us in this world. In life we are so hesitant to address the things in life that will occur. If there is life there will be end of life so why not prepare and make that process a bit more comfortable. This companion helps us face those realities and provides the support and guidance to get us through the difficult times of becoming a caregiver. It’s a road so many of us will travel and thanks to this wonderful guide we can do it with knowledge of policies, procedures and pitfalls. It is true that knowledge is power and this guide is the source of that power. I am feeling thankful and proud of the work you have done in providing this book to the world. Your story is amazing and my heartfelt thanks to you for sharing it. Much success to you in all your endeavors. Read review–Amazon


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 Yes—We all are caregiver’s to both young and old

IMG_1052Even if one person is the primary caregiver, caregiving is accomplished more effectively when it is a team effort. Caregiving consumes time, energy and financial resources. Relatives of a primary caregiver can make the caregiver’s life easier by providing emotional support, financial support and the support of being present so the caregiver can take some time off. The everyday care of your loved one should not be left entirely to the primary caregiver simply because this person lives closest or has volunteered. In some cases, relatives or others may live in another state or country, at a distance that makes it difficult for them to contribute care. If you’re far away, you might make a point of visiting for a week every year so the primary caregiver can take a vacation from the duties of caregiving.

In general, family caregivers are not paid to do the work. However, they often change their work schedule or even quit their job so they can be present for the ailing family member, and this can put a strain on their finances. In my own case, I eventually changed jobs, assuming the post of a sales rep in the local area and taking a sizable cut in my salary, so I could continue working and take care of my dad.

Keep in mind that the person most prone to burnout in a caregiving arrangement is the primary caregiver, which is why a caregiver deserves to be rewarded with your support in any form you can give it, including financially.

In short, it is in the best interest of a family to unite to help the caregiver and the chronically ill or dying loved one. How different family members step in at such a time to offer assistance depends on the relationship dynamics of the family. Ultimately, your role in your loved one’s care depends on many factors, not the least of which is your willingness to be involved, and your loved one’s competence in making decisions and his or her desire for your participation.


 

Discover the step-by-step process that will help make caregiving a family affair.

The Caregiver’s Companion

Everything you need to know to ensure that your elderly loved one is being properly cared for.View MoreIMG_0315

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