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5.0 out of 5 stars It’s so easy to let yourself go when your parent’s life is…
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“DIVA INTERRUPTED, OH GOD NOW WHAT? How am I supposed to change my mother’s diapers with these nails?” Is what I had to wrap my brain around as my mother “poo pooed” in her diaper in the middle of me changing her my first time!!! I started crying and chanted, “I can’t do this!” over and over. My 3 children ran into my room and at that moment changing my mother turned into a “CAREGIVING FAMILY AFFAIR”. Carolyn A. Brent’s “The Caregivers Companion” is our new bible. “Taking Care of Yourself When You Are The Caregiver” chapter resonated the loudest with my “Diva” inner self. It’s so easy to let yourself go when your parent’s life is basically in your hands. On behalf of my family, THANK YOU Carolyn for sharing your story and providing invaluable information and resources to help guide us through this process. Congratulations and much success with your book(s). Read review–Amazon 

5.0 out of 5 starsAn Amazing Resource; The Caregiver’s Companion
By Sandi Jackson

First and foremost Congratulations to the author Carolyn Brent. Thank you for this valuable resource. The topics discussed are critical and relevant to me and so many of us in this world. In life we are so hesitant to address the things in life that will occur. If there is life there will be end of life so why not prepare and make that process a bit more comfortable. This companion helps us face those realities and provides the support and guidance to get us through the difficult times of becoming a caregiver. It’s a road so many of us will travel and thanks to this wonderful guide we can do it with knowledge of policies, procedures and pitfalls. It is true that knowledge is power and this guide is the source of that power. I am feeling thankful and proud of the work you have done in providing this book to the world. Your story is amazing and my heartfelt thanks to you for sharing it. Much success to you in all your endeavors. Read review–Amazon


Make Caregiving A Family Affair

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 Yes—We all are caregiver’s to both young and old

IMG_1052Even if one person is the primary caregiver, caregiving is accomplished more effectively when it is a team effort. Caregiving consumes time, energy and financial resources. Relatives of a primary caregiver can make the caregiver’s life easier by providing emotional support, financial support and the support of being present so the caregiver can take some time off. The everyday care of your loved one should not be left entirely to the primary caregiver simply because this person lives closest or has volunteered. In some cases, relatives or others may live in another state or country, at a distance that makes it difficult for them to contribute care. If you’re far away, you might make a point of visiting for a week every year so the primary caregiver can take a vacation from the duties of caregiving.

In general, family caregivers are not paid to do the work. However, they often change their work schedule or even quit their job so they can be present for the ailing family member, and this can put a strain on their finances. In my own case, I eventually changed jobs, assuming the post of a sales rep in the local area and taking a sizable cut in my salary, so I could continue working and take care of my dad.

Keep in mind that the person most prone to burnout in a caregiving arrangement is the primary caregiver, which is why a caregiver deserves to be rewarded with your support in any form you can give it, including financially.

In short, it is in the best interest of a family to unite to help the caregiver and the chronically ill or dying loved one. How different family members step in at such a time to offer assistance depends on the relationship dynamics of the family. Ultimately, your role in your loved one’s care depends on many factors, not the least of which is your willingness to be involved, and your loved one’s competence in making decisions and his or her desire for your participation.


 

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Posted on 02/11/2015 at 7:15pm

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  • “DIVA INTERRUPTED, OH GOD NOW WHAT? How am I supposed to change my mother’s diapers with these nails?” Is what I had to wrap my brain around as my mother “poo pooed” in her diaper in the middle of me changing her my first time!!! I started crying and chanted, “I can’t do this!” over and over.My 3 children ran into my room and at that moment changing my mother turned into a “CAREGIVING FAMILY AFFAIR”. Carolyn A. Brent’s “The Caregivers Companion” is our new bible. “Taking Care of Yourself When You Are The Caregiver” chapter resonated the loudest with my “Diva” inner self. It’s so easy to let yourself go when your parent’s life is basically in your hands. On behalf of my family, THANK YOU Carolyn for sharing your story and providing invaluable information and resources to help guide us through this process. Congratulations and much success with your book(s).“My son and his band members are in the basement teaching Tamara how to play guitar, Amara (11yro) how to play bass. Amara comes up stairs, AMARA, “Mom, I think grandma pooled in her diaper”. ME, “So, when is band rehearsal over? School tomorrow, And, WE NEED TO change Grandma’s diaper“. “BALLIN’ OFF TALENT FAMILY HUSTLE! TEAM WORK MAKES THE DREAM WORK!

    Elise is the Chief Executive Officer at Joygirl ProductionsDancer at SambaFunk! and Singer-songwriter at Soul Purpose Entertainment Pro. Past: Soul Purpose Entertainment Pro. and MC Hammer

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  • Margo Rose author & wellness coach has been a fitness trainer for over 15 years and specializes in injury reduction, senior wellness and making DSC_2171_ppexercise more comfortable. When her mother, father, sister, a romantic partner and three pets passed away, she faced grief and depression. At times it was really hard to go to work and get through each day. In order to function skillfully during difficult times, Margo Rose created a system to stay organized and practical while handling strong emotions. She calls this system of self-care Body Aware Grieving. She   has been helping her clients with these effective techniques and looks forward to sharing them with you. If you would like to be notified when Margo Rose’s upcoming book, Body Aware Grieving, A Fitness Trainer’s Guide to Caring for Your Health During Sad Times~
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Taking Care of Yourself When You Are a Caregiver

 

MY STORY

IMG_1052After going through the journey and heartache of being the family caregiver for my father for twelve years, and then enduring the pain of legal conflicts with my siblings, I ultimately asked myself a key question: What would I do differently if I could do it all over again? My answer was simple: I would take better care of myself.

Looking back, I do not regret my decision to be my father’s caregiver. I did it for love. It was rewarding to have the opportunity to give of myself to my father in his time of need, as he had given so much to me. Even so, it was exhausting. It took a very real physical toll on my body.

The moral of my story: to be an effective caregiver, you must also take care of yourself. I’ve found that exercise and meditation help me to relax, and now I wish I had known to take some time to nurture myself better while I was on the journey with my father.

While interviewing more than fifteen hundred caregivers nationwide, I was amazed that they all gave responses that were similar to mine when I asked them the question, “What would you do differently?” We’re so busy caring for our loved ones that we forget how important our own self-care is. As a result, caregivers end up with all sorts of physical ailments, such as back and neck problems. We even end up in the hospital.

When I asked one woman if there was something she’d do differently if she could do the caregiving all over again, she, too, remarked, “I didn’t give consideration to my own health, and I should have.” She then confessed that she’d had so much love for her mother that even though she herself had diabetes and hypertension, when she was at her mother’s bedside in the hospital, her eating habits fell apart. Matters came to a head one day, when she thought she was having a heart attack. She couldn’t make it from her chair in the living room to her dining room table without feeling like she was going to fall down. She went to see the doctor and was told she had severe anemia. And like many other caregivers, who somehow manage to keep themselves going with adrenaline when in a crisis mode, in the transition period when she was grieving her mom’s death, the woman fell apart.

Caregivers are notoriously run-down. A common thread in all my conversations with the caregivers I have met across the country is how beaten up they feel. They’re trying to help someone they love and they’re falling to pieces in the process.

For detailed information on how to “Take Better Care of Yourself — get my brand new book — Bestseller: The Caregiver’s Companion: Caring for Your Loved One Medically, Financially and Emotionally While Caring for Yourself

 

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Discover the step-by-step process that will help make caregiving a family affair.

The Caregiver’s Companion

Everything you need to know to ensure that your elderly loved one is being properly cared for.View More

Where to Get your copy

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Posted on 02/08/2015 at 5:00pm

I wrote this guide because I had no where to look when I became the primary caregiver for my father. Whether you are in a similar situation now — or you are planning to be in the future I wrote this for you. I appreciate Harlequin for publishing the book and being a bestseller — has been amazing.

This is more than a book — it is a movement to change public policy.

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Library Journal

Reviewed on FEBRUARY 1, 2015  |  Self-Help

Not limited to addressing the needs of Alzheimer’s patients, this compact manual from Brent, founder of Caregiver Story and Grandpa’s Dream, two nonprofit organizations geared toward providing comprehensive support for caregivers, walks readers through the crucial issues of moving their aging loved ones into an assisted-living facility as well as discussing emotional, medical, legal, and financial issues with them. Checklists are provided for gathering important information. A particularly helpful chapter delves into the frequent dilemma of dealing with the loved one’s resistance to even talking about these issues.VERDICT An excellent, comprehensive guide to everything both new and seasoned caregivers need to know.

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Posted on 01/31/2015 at 2:48am

A Special Thank You!

To all the experts — who participated in the International Blog Tour. Thank you for contributing your time, expertise and knowledge to  the successful book release — of  “The Caregiver’s Companion,” which is on the Amazons Bestseller list.  And has been since its release —  on January 27, 2015.

A special note: Each of the International Blog Tour participants shared their unique talents, expertise, knowledge and passion.  They represent an untold worldwide number of  wellness advocates — AIMING for better: Health, Wellness, Fitness, and the Spiritual Well-Being for mankind.

Once again,  thank you for helping  in the quest of  making a difference throughout the WORLD!

Sincerely,

Carolyn A. Brent, MBA,  founder of CareGiverStory Inc.
American author, caregiver & elder care legislation advocate, and inspirational speaker.

And a very special thank you from my dad’s spirit, Dr. William L. Brent, and others.

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  •  Day 2      Honoring Legacy – and the Impact of Caregivers by Tina M. Games
    db25599aec722f480289e52380b008d6About Tina Games
    Tina M. Games is the author of Journaling by the Moonlight: A Mother’s Path to Self-Discovery (an interactive book with an accompanying deck of 54 journaling prompt cards). As a certified creativity and life purpose coach, and a gifted intuitive, she is the “Moonlight Muse” for women who want to tap into the “full moon within” and claim their authentic self, both personally and professionally. Through her signature coaching programs, based on the phases of the moon, Tina gently guides women from darkness to light as they create an authentic vision filled with purpose, passion and creative expression. She lives on Cape Cod in Massachusetts with her husband and their two children.

 

  •  Day 4      Empowered Spirit – focus is energy healing of body, mind and spirit by Krystalya Marie
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    A natural born teacher and healer, Krystalya enjoys supporting others on their path to growth and healing by working with the body, mind and spirit as a whole.As a child she was injured on a bicycle and although the injury was nothing more than a severe bruise her doctor told her that she would probably have pain in the area of the injury whenever it was cold or damp for the rest of her life. During her mid 20’s she discovered that she had the innate ability to heal herself. Once she realized this, she was able to stop having the pain that her doctor had programmed her to have for all of those years.  Since that time she has taught many people various techniques to overcome their doctor’s predictions. She emphasizes that it is not the doctors fault, although she does feel that doctors need to be more careful with the words they use and the predictions they make. More importantly though she points out that it is up to each of us to decide whether we are going to believe what our doctors tell us without question or whether we are going to decide to listen to our inner healer.Ms. Marié spent over 13 years in talk therapy only to discover that although her life had improved dramatically she was still carrying much of her childhood baggage. In 2000 she met author and teacher Dawn E. Clark and through Ms. Clark’s processes learned to heal deep emotional issues. This work helped her immensely, yet this was just the beginning.

 

  •  Day 5      Tools For Awakening by Renee Baribeau
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    About Renee Baribeau is known worldwide as, “The Practical Shaman.” As a gifted sage, mentor, healer, blogger, author, and soul coach, she injects humor and practical wisdom into her dynamic, inspirational workshops. The “Awakening Compass,©” featured in her new book, The Winds of Spirit (spring 2015), is a navigational tool designed to provide guidance, focus and clarity of direction in your life, no matter which way the wind is blowing. She is a contributing author to, Pearls of Wisdom: 30 Inspirational Ideas to Live Your Best Life Now! with New York Times bestselling author Jack Canfield. Renee has also been featured in, The Five Principles of Everything. – See more at: The The practical shaman 

 

  •  Day 6      Tips when selecting a caregiver & executor of the will? by Andrea Hylen
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    Heal My Voice, Inc emerged out of a book project with the organization Evolutionary Women called Conscious Choices: An Evolutionary Woman’s Guide to Life. Published in 2008. In a co-creative environment of support, each woman organically began to offer her unique gifts. The project modeled the possibilities of women healing and supporting each other to emerge as leaders in their own lives. We are glad you stopped by. Come on in.  Pull up a chair. Check out the different links and see what may have drawn you here today. ~Andrea Hylen, Founder

 

  •  Day 7      Self-Care & Wellness for the Caregiver by Jackie Ruka
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    “America’s Happyologist” Jackie Ruka , is a lifestyle strategist who founded the Get Happy Zone personal development organization. She is author of the #1 bestseller action guide “Get Happy and Create a Kick Butt Life, a Creative Toolbox for Rapidly Activating the Life You Desire,” available  at  your favorite book store.

 

 

  •  Day 8      Caring for an aging, disabled  or a young child with special needs.  bDr. Erica Pooler
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    is an author, motivational speaker, and educational consultant, with expertise as a teacher of at risk youth, director of district safety and student alternative placement and principal of the neediest students (teenage parents, incarcerations, probation, homeless and in some cases hopeless). She impacts drastic changes with her polished skill sets for the redirection of unmotivated and at risk youth, by lending her support to teachers, administrators, students and parents.She is the poster child of second chances and beating the odds and uses her past to propel her future. She was born to a mother addicted to drugs and father imprisoned, was placed in foster care, entered the juvenile system and became a teenage parent, but chose to stop making excuses for her behavior and began a journey to success, a true testament to her book entitled “The cards of life, when all hope is gone, trust then believe”. Dr. Pooler will inspire and captivate your audience with her keys to find hidden potential and determination to press forward and never quit. The Cards of Life: When All Hope is Gone, Trust then Believe Paperback – August 7, 2012 — by Dr. Erica Pooler

 

  • Day 9       How to work with siblings in caregiving  by Mary Nicholson
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    Healings in Motion is a patient-driven agency that serves a significant population of people who have had strokes, brain injuries and brain attacks. To prevent strokes, Healings in Motion also includes educational support to focus on the symptoms that trigger strokes. Healings in Motion provides socially-conscious programs that increase self esteem, promote self-advocacy and supports recovery and prevention. It’s programs offer hope to patients, consumers and to those partnering in the health care of those with special needs. Healings in Motion is supported by socially-sensitive and positive focused businesses interested in helping those with a life-changing illness or disease.  The programs offered by Healings in Motion are established to address gaps within areas of health care. In addition, the programs present opportunities for those with special needs to become engaged and occupied while healing. Through this effort support networks have strengthened and new ones have begun. Healings in Motion produces great programs showcasing experts and resources, as well as other elements serving its mission.

 

  • Day 10     Three ways caregivers can develop a deeper spiritual life  by  Maria Hoaglun
    b562648c61b015d2bcaf279763371c27About Rev. Maria “Dancing Heart” Hoaglund, author of “The Last Adventure of Life” and “The Most Important Day of Your Life?”, is an energy healer, spiritual counselor, and end-of-life coach. She has served as a hospice counselor for many years and is passionate about bringing the subject of death back to life. She also delights in sharing the body-mind-spirit approaches to healing. Maria now serves as Energy Healer and transitions coach for the Japanese too in Sedona, Ariz. E-mail: info@changewithcourage.com or visit her Web site www.changewithcourage.com.

 

  • Day 11      Joys and overcoming fears of caregiving by Andrew Mondvia
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    Canadian born Andrew Mondia with a mix of Swiss currently resides in Airolo, Switzerland.   Andrew is a powerful visionary with a passion for empowering people to reach their truepotential and expand their possibilities. Achieving the improbable is what Andrew strives for in both himself and his clients.Andrew brings flair of unique combination of child-like enthusiasm and innocence coupled with worldly ambition and determination. Andrew continues to pursue his top passion in acting and has worked on/off stage and screen on both sides of the Atlantic since early childhood and through these experiences he found his love and natural talent for making people realize their potentials and have fun.

 

  • Day 12      How does caregiving affect your relationship with your spouse? by James H. Hill
    DSC03788(1)About James H. Hill, MBA
    Board member of  CareGiverStory Inc., and a a retired Field Operations Bureau Commander for a major City Fire Department in Florida.  After serving 28 years in Civil Service he continues to dedicate his life to helping others.  Currently, his encore career is in Public Safety with the local school district in  Safety, Fire & Health compliance – Security. James enjoys mentoring the local youth by coaching High School and Pop Warner football teams.  James  received a Bachelor of Science in Business Management (BSBM) from University of Phoenix – Orlando, FL,  and his Masters of Business Administration (MBA) from University of Phoenix–Orlando, Florida.

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Introducing the New Book —

 

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Posted on 01/30/2015 at 12:00pm

Caregiver Companion Author Carolyn A Brent Talks About Caregiving and Offers Tips

Today I have the great pleasure of being the host on Day 11 of the Virtual Blog Tour of author Carolyn A. Brent whose book The Caregiver’s Companion: Caring for Your Loved One Medically, Financially and Emotionally While Caring for Yourself is celebrating its big Amazon launch NOW!!!

Carolyn A. Brent is a nationally acclaimed author, speaker and caregiver advocate. She has dedicated her life to preparing caregivers and their loved ones to face end-of-life issues. Carolyn is the founder of Caregiver Story, a non-profit organization that provides free medical, legal and wellness resources to the public.

Yesterday, Carolyn visited Maria Dancing Heart Hoaglund at http://exm.nr/1xusoIL, where she interviewed Carolyn on the subject of spirituality and caregiving support.

Today, I’d like to share with you a recent interview I had with Carolyn when I got to ask her on the subject of the joys and overcoming fears of caregiving. I hope you enjoy it.

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Andrew Mondia: What is the number one thing that is important for caregivers to remember?

Carolyn A. Brent: After going through the journey and heartache of being the sole family caregiver for my father for twelve years, and then enduring the pain of legal conflicts with my siblings, I Carolyn_Headshot_Feb_10_2013ultimately asked myself a key question: What would you do differently if you could do it all over again? My answer was simple: “I would take better care of myself at every step in the process.”

 

To be an effective caregiver, you must take care of yourself as well. Now on the other end of caregiving, I find that exercise and meditation help me to relax, as I never did beforehand. I wish I had known to nurture myself better while I was on the journey with my father.

After interviewing over one thousand former caregivers nationwide, it still amazes me that they all gave me similar responses to this one question: What would you do differently? It’s exceptionally common for us caregivers to fail to take good care of ourselves. We’re so busy caring for our loved ones that we forget how important our own self-care is. As a result, caregivers end up with back and neck problems. We end up with all sorts of different physical ailments. We even end up in the hospital.

Know your limits and how much you can realistically handle as a caregiver. Don’t overexert yourself. If possible, ask your immediate family and extended family for help. Otherwise, seek help in your community, from doctors, and from caregiver support groups.

Andrew Mondia: Caregiving can be a lot of work but on the upside what are the joys to being a caregiver?

Carolyn A. Brent: Yes, the UPSIDE is the memories you will have forever in spending fun quality time with your loved one. Once you become a primary caregiver, how you spend your free time will change. You will spend some of your free time trying to keep your ailing loved one as active as possible. In my case I volunteered at a senior adult day-care center that my dad visited and became a bingo caller. I had so much fun calling out the numbers and watching everyone having a good old time. I derived joy from seeing my dad having fun with his friends. I also began to include Dad in some of my own social events, such as trips to museums, art classes, and Bible study, which Dad enjoyed. I learned to embrace that time spent with my dad, and it was gratifying to know that I could make him happy, even if that meant sacrificing time or energy that I would have spent elsewhere.

Andrew Mondia: If one has fear in being a caregiver. What can help them to overcome this fear?

Carolyn A. Brent: When you choose to provide care for a loved one, — it is an act of unconditional love and loyalty that money cannot buy.

No amount could compensate for the hard work involved in undertaking this responsibility when the care you give is based upon the right motivations. No hired caregiver, no matter how well trained; could ever feel for your loved one as much as you do. Your family truly needs to understand the significance of selecting the right caregiver, and the level of dedication that family caregiving demands.

If your lifestyle does not permit you to be the primary caregiver, — and you have the fear of being a caregiver, be very discreet and ask another qualified, loving family member to be the primary caregiver. Or you can hire a medical professional to help meet the needs of your loved one. Carefully vet the candidates for this position so that you do not inadvertently place your loved one in harm’s way. Remember, caregiving is a second full-time job when your loved one actually lives with you, so you will have to consider to an even greater degree whether your lifestyle is truly compatible.

More details are in The Caregiver’s Companion: Chapters 1: When Should You Step In?

 

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I hope you enjoyed this interview with Carolyn A. Brent and that you’ll check out her book on Amazon today:

 

The Caregiver’s Companion:

Caring for Your Loved One Medically,

Financially and Emotionally While Caring for Yourself

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Thanks for reading! Please share your comments and thoughts below. I love reading your feedback.

AND… be sure to follow Carolyn tomorrow when the next stop on the Virtual Blog Tour is James Hill, who will be interviewing Carolyn on the subject of caregivers and their relationships with your spouse 

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