“DIVA INTERRUPTED, OH GOD NOW WHAT? How am I supposed to change my mother’s diapers with these nails?” Is what I had to wrap my brain around as my mother “poo pooed” in her diaper in the middle of me changing her my first time!!! I started crying and chanted, “I can’t do this!” over and over. My 3 children ran into my room and at that moment changing my mother turned into a “CAREGIVING FAMILY AFFAIR”. Carolyn A. Brent’s “The Caregivers Companion” is our new bible. “Taking Care of Yourself When You Are The Caregiver” chapter resonated the loudest with my “Diva” inner self. It’s so easy to let yourself go when your parent’s life is basically in your hands. On behalf of my family, THANK YOU Carolyn for sharing your story and providing invaluable information and resources to help guide us through this process. Congratulations and much success with your book(s). Read review–Amazon
An Amazing Resource; The Caregiver’s Companion
By Sandi Jackson
First and foremost Congratulations to the author Carolyn Brent. Thank you for this valuable resource. The topics discussed are critical and relevant to me and so many of us in this world. In life we are so hesitant to address the things in life that will occur. If there is life there will be end of life so why not prepare and make that process a bit more comfortable. This companion helps us face those realities and provides the support and guidance to get us through the difficult times of becoming a caregiver. It’s a road so many of us will travel and thanks to this wonderful guide we can do it with knowledge of policies, procedures and pitfalls. It is true that knowledge is power and this guide is the source of that power. I am feeling thankful and proud of the work you have done in providing this book to the world. Your story is amazing and my heartfelt thanks to you for sharing it. Much success to you in all your endeavors. Read review–Amazon
Make Caregiving A Family Affair
Yes—We all are caregiver’s to both young and old
Even if one person is the primary caregiver, caregiving is accomplished more effectively when it is a team effort. Caregiving consumes time, energy and financial resources. Relatives of a primary caregiver can make the caregiver’s life easier by providing emotional support, financial support and the support of being present so the caregiver can take some time off. The everyday care of your loved one should not be left entirely to the primary caregiver simply because this person lives closest or has volunteered. In some cases, relatives or others may live in another state or country, at a distance that makes it difficult for them to contribute care. If you’re far away, you might make a point of visiting for a week every year so the primary caregiver can take a vacation from the duties of caregiving.
In general, family caregivers are not paid to do the work. However, they often change their work schedule or even quit their job so they can be present for the ailing family member, and this can put a strain on their finances. In my own case, I eventually changed jobs, assuming the post of a sales rep in the local area and taking a sizable cut in my salary, so I could continue working and take care of my dad.
Keep in mind that the person most prone to burnout in a caregiving arrangement is the primary caregiver, which is why a caregiver deserves to be rewarded with your support in any form you can give it, including financially.
In short, it is in the best interest of a family to unite to help the caregiver and the chronically ill or dying loved one. How different family members step in at such a time to offer assistance depends on the relationship dynamics of the family. Ultimately, your role in your loved one’s care depends on many factors, not the least of which is your willingness to be involved, and your loved one’s competence in making decisions and his or her desire for your participation.
Discover the step-by-step process that will help make caregiving a family affair.