Aging Parents

Posted on 10/06/2014 at 10:56pm

My Story

After going through the journey and heartache of being the family caregiver for my father for twelve years, and then enduring the pain of legal conflicts with my siblings, I ultimately asked myself a key question:  What would I do differently if I could do it all over again? My answer was simple: I would take better care of myself.
Caregivers are notoriously run-down. A common thread in all my conversations with the caregivers I have met across the country is how beaten up they feel. They’re trying to help someone they love and they’re falling to pieces in the process.
In 2011 I wrote my first book on the subject,Why Wait?The Baby Boomers’ Guide to Preparing Emotionally, Financially and Legally for a Parent’s Death.  And now I have written a follow-up book, which contains new and updated information and provides a road map to guide the family caregiver, whether he or she is the adult child of an aging parent or another family member who is providing care.  In my new book The Caregiver’s Companion: Caring for Your Loved One Medically, Financially and Emotionally While Caring for Yourself.   Also explores the toll that caregiving exacts on caregivers and the myriad ways in which you can take better care of yourself as a caregiver.  Paperback – January 27, 2015
November is  National Caregivers Appreciation Month. Give your  family caregiver your support:  The Caregiver’s Companion.
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Since 2009 I have been conducting extensive research  related to family caregiving, including interviewing more than fifteen hundred caregivers across the globe.
This research has culminated in my new book, designed to help you navigate the tricky waters of caregiving. With this guide to help you step-by-step along the way, you will be equipped to become a confident caregiver for your loved one, you will learn how to take proper care of yourself, and you will master the necessary skills to communicate and work effectively with your extended family during this difficult time in your aging loved one’s life.

This guide will have you pondering big, detailed questions, but the biggest takeaway involves the most basic of ideas: love is the greatest thing you can give to your ailing loved one. Come on this journey in The Caregiver’s Companion and find out how to give that and more.

Thank you for your support,

Carolyn A. Brent-Hill, MBA

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My dad and I were very close. As a single parent, he raised me from the time I was twelve until I was nineteen, the age at which I left home. That year I moved from Denver to Los Angeles to explore the world. Dad remarried and we remained close. Over the years, I’d look forward to his visits to Los Angeles each March to celebrate his birthday and catch up. Because Dad was a church pastor, he used our special time together to share the word of God with me.

There was one birthday visit I’ll never forget. I decided to take Dad to Redondo Beach on a Wednesday afternoon. Hardly any people were around, and it was a beautiful day. The ocean was misty, and the moon had risen and was hanging above us in the sky. Dad and I walked along the beach for a while, until we found a comfortable spot to sit in the sand. Then, as we sat gazing at the water and listening to the calls of the seagulls and pelicans that were gracefully flying by, he began to talk to me about God’s love for humanity.
Pointing to one pelican slowly soaring high in the sky, silhouetted against the moon, Dad said, “Carolyn, do you see that pelican? DadandMe1975Imagine if that beautiful bird had only one responsibility in life. What if it had to fly to the moon and drop off a single grain of sand that it was carrying in its pouch, and then it had to repeat this task until all the sand was removed from the face of the earth?” Looking directly at me, he asked, “How long do you think it would take?”

“It would take forever,” I answered.

“The love of God and my love for you are eternal,” he said. “Even after I’ve gone to glory, for as long as it would take a pelican to remove the sand from the earth a grain at a time, that’s how long my love will be with you.”

That was the first time I can recall Dad speaking with me about the prospect of his death. Of course, I didn’t really want to discuss it, and, in fact, I think I changed the subject. Being in my twenties then, death seemed far off. On some level, I felt that Dad would live forever and nothing bad could ever happen to him. But I also made a vow to God on that day that I’d always be there to take care of Dad if he needed me. Later on, I did my best to honor this promise.

My dad was my best friend, my hero and my adviser, and I hoped and prayed he’d be with me forever. The good times I had with him continued for the next thirty-three years, and th9780615475011-Frontcover copyere were many opportunities for us to discuss his end-of-life wishes. We did the best we could to prepare.

But when I became his caregiver, I discovered that knowing someone’s wishes is not enough. Even doing the necessary paperwork to ensure that end-of-life wishes will be fulfilled does not always protect an elderly parent or a loved one, particularly if other family members disagree with the arrangements that have been made. Even if you try to do the right things and do your best to prepare for every possible scenario that might arise, like the chronic illness of a parent and the costs associated with it, you can never be too prepared.

 

About the Books

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In 2011 Brent wrote her first book on the subject, Why Wait? The Baby Boomers’ Guide to Preparing Emotionally, Financially and Legally for a Parent’s Death.

And now she has written a follow-up book, which contains new and updated information and provides a road map to guide the family caregiver, whether he or she is the adult child of an aging parent or another family member who is providing care. The new book entitled: The Caregiver’s Companion, Caring for Your Loved One Medically, Financially and Emotionally While Caring for YourselfPublisher: Harlequin (January 27, 2015)  

Visit CareGiverStory.com A Free resource portal

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Posted on 10/01/2014 at 12:17am

My Story –

After going through the journey and heartache of being the family caregiver for my father for twelve years, and then enduring the pain of legal conflicts with my siblings, I ultimately asked myself a key question: What would I do differently if I could do it all over again? My answer was simple: I would take better care of myself.

Caregivers are notoriously run-down. A common thread in all my conversations with the caregivers I have met across the country is how beaten up they feel. They’re trying to help someone they love and they’re falling to pieces in the process. At my company, Grandpa’s Dream, we’ve established a national Caregivers™Appreciation Day to give people a chance to show family caregivers their support. Visit CaregiverStory.com for more details.

 In 2011 I wrote my first book on the subject, Why Wait? The Baby Boomers’ Guide to Preparing Emotionally, Financially and Legally for a Parent’s Death. And now I have written a  follow-up book, which contains new and updated information and provides a road map to guide the family caregiver, whether he or she is the adult child of an aging parent or another family member who is providing care.

In my new book THE CAREGIVER’S COMPANION: Caring for Your Loved One Medically, Financially and Emotionally While Caring for Yourself,  also explores the toll that caregiving exacts on caregivers and the myriad ways in which you can take better care of yourself as a caregiver. Paperback – January 27, 2015

December 11, 2002, take a close look at my face — What do you really see?

Looking back, I do not regret my decision to be my father’s caregiver. I did it for love. It was rewarding to have the opportunity to give of myself to my father in his time of need, as he had given so much to me. Even so, it was exhausting. It took a very real physical toll on my body.  My journey–protecting seniors & caregivers February 19, 2013

 

 

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“The Art of Aging Gracefully.” And so canYOU!
 
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About the Books

Buy Now

Amazon | B&N | Smashwords

In 2011 Brent wrote her first book on the subject, Why Wait? The Baby Boomers’ Guide to Preparing Emotionally, Financially and Legally for a Parent’s Death.

And now she has written a follow-up book, which contains new and updated information and provides a road map to guide the family caregiver, whether he or she is the adult child of an aging parent or another family member who is providing care. The new book entitled: The Caregiver’s Companion, Caring for Your Loved One Medically, Financially and Emotionally While Caring for YourselfPublisher: Harlequin (January 27, 2015)  

Visit CareGiverStory.com A Free resource portal

Support the Project

A Caregiver’s Story is a nonprofit and a labor of love. An endeavor of this magnitude requires much commitment, time and resources to operate to its full potential. Please consider making a donation to support this worthy cause.

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Posted on 09/20/2014 at 1:05am

Caregivers are considerably less likely than non-caregivers to practice preventive health care and other self-nurturing behaviors. As a result, caregivers are at risk for depression, chronic illness and a decline in the quality of their life.

According to the Family Caregiver Alliance caregivers report problems attending to their own health and well-being while managing caregiving responsibilities.” Issues many caregivers report experiencing include:

● Sleep deprivation
● Poor eating habits
● Failure to exercise
● Failure to stay in bed when ill
● Postponement of medical appointments or failure to make them in the first place
● Excessive use of alcohol, tobacco and medications for depression

Caring for a loved one can be an emotional roller coaster. On the one hand, caring for your family member demonstrates your love and commitment, and it can be a very rewarding personal experience. On the other hand, caregivers must often contend with exhaustion, worry, inadequate resources and continuous care demands, and these are enormously stressful. Thus it is normal for a caregiver to experience at least some of the negative emotions listed in Carolyn’s new book: The Caregiver’s Companion, Caring for Your Loved One Medically, Financially and Emotionally While Caring for Yourself.  Publisher: Harlequin (January 27, 2015) order your copy today

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About the Books

Buy them Now

Amazon | B&N | Smashwords

In 2011 Brent wrote her first book on the subject, Why Wait? The Baby Boomers’ Guide to Preparing Emotionally, Financially and Legally for a Parent’s Death.

And now she has written a follow-up book, which contains new and updated information and provides a road map to guide the family caregiver, whether he or she is the adult child of an aging parent or another family member who is providing care. The new book entitled: The Caregiver’s Companion, Caring for Your Loved One Medically, Financially and Emotionally While Caring for YourselfPublisher: Harlequin (January 27, 2015)  

Visit CareGiverStory.com A Free resource portal 

Support the Project

A Caregiver’s Story is a nonprofit and a labor of love. An endeavor of this magnitude requires much commitment, time and resources to operate to its full potential. Please consider making a donation to support this worthy cause.

To make an immediate donation, click the Donate button below and enter your donation amount.




                                                                     

Carolyn has appeared on the following TV networks